Posted by: chlost | October 12, 2010

Quietly enjoying it all

Things here have become quiet the past few days. My husband and his brother have sold their aunt’s home, so they are no longer spending every evening and weekend day working there. The mold and mildew, dust and dirt were so bad that my husband may have upper respiratory problems for some time to come. The house will be demolished to make way for a new home on the lot, so it is an end of an era. The family had owned the home since the early 1900’s. There was really no other option.  The smell of the place was so bad, and the condition of the place so awful that renovation was not likely to be successful. The neighbor bought the place. He recently renovated his house next door and it looks quite nice.

We have had spectacular fall weather the past few weeks. Warm and sunny. The most beautiful fall we have had in many years. This is the kind of fall I remember as a kid. Cool nights, warm days, several weeks of colorful leaves on the trees before they drop. My garden is still quite colorful. It looks about the best it has all year.

Today it is 8 months since my sister’s death.  It still is not real to me. Their cat, who was with them before their soon-to-be 15-year-old son was born, died this past week. I think that my nephew has taken that hard. When I texted him to see how he was doing, he texted  😦  . It must be hard to lose your mom and a beloved pet within a short time. I remember losing one of our cats, and I cried for 2 days, and I was an adult with grown children.

My brother-in-law has been working to help my mom move here at the end of the month. My mom is anxious to get here. She moved from the midwest after her divorce from my dad, and vowed never to live here again. She loved the southern California life. I guess you should never say never. We are scheduling flights, hotels, trucks and packers. I will breathe a sigh of relief on October 31.

My b-i-l is now seriously dating a woman who works at the senior housing place where my mom lives. In fact, my mom is certain that he planned to bring this person to our place for the holidays. He claims that she misunderstood him, she is certain she did not.  Bottom line is that she is not coming with them. Whew!

Today I had two new 13 year-old alleged sex offenders on my calendar. That now makes at least 10 currently open files like that. Both of these have been victims of sexual abuse themselves. It is overwhelmingly sad, and a vicious cycle which I cannot break in my current job. I am still seeking something different, but haven’t had any luck.  Who hires old ladies these days?

We had the grandgirls last week. We will have them again next Saturday. Our son and d-i-l went for their first doctor appointment for the 3rd grandchild today. All is well.  There is a bit of a question of whether or not she is a little bigger than she should be at this point-twins run in her family. We will see.  How exciting and crazy that would be!

We are in the final stretch of the campaign season. The negative ads are flying left and right. I have lost interest, to be honest. I was polled recently by phone, and the last question was “Do you consider yourself to be born again?”  It took me by surprise to be asked such a question. I stuttered a bit, and replied that I was born once, and that was enough. I suppose they are trying to figure out voter profiles. But really!

I have been trying to read more, as I am still working on the reading challenge which is explained more on the page entitled “Reading”.  I am making slow progress. I seem to read longer books than I should for someone trying to read a lot of books. I have had some pretty interesting ones recently.  I would strongly recommend “The Help”, and “The Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet”.

I’ve just been rambling, I know. I will try to be more lucid tomorrow. Some days are just like this. Quiet and enjoyable while it lasts.



  1. Good ramble! A good ramble is very theraputic sometimes 🙂 I cannot wait until the elections are over, same as you, we are getting bombarded right and left with ads and calls that are all negative. You listen to the ads and you would think the Governors race in Texas is between Hitler and Jeffrey Dahmer. I am thinking of doing some reading myself. Are either of those books something an intellectually-challenged man would like? Have a great day Chlost! 🙂

    • I love the Hitler/Dahmer matchup. Which do you think will win? I remember my mom describing her father as such a strong Republican that he would have voted for Hitler had a been on the Republican ticker. I think that is close to the truth for some people.
      Both books I mentioned are pretty good reads. The Help is set in the US South in the mid to late 1960’s. The other goes back and forth from the present to memories of the Seattle area during WW2. If you read them, let me know what you think.

  2. Rambling is good! Like a walk with an old friend.

    I do feel for your nephew, losing two persons he has known all his life, in one year. And pets can be like a person.

    Beginnings and ends: life rolls on. It can be hard sometimes, the brutal continuance of ordinary life when some tragedy brings a pause in one’s own.

    It has become rather hackneyed after Four Weddings and a Funeral, but I still think it says it all:

    W. H. Auden

    Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
    Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy
    Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
    Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

    Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
    Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
    Put crepe bows round the white necks of the
    public doves,
    Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton

    He was my North, my South, my East and
    My working week and my Sunday rest,
    My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
    I thought that love would last for ever: I was

    The stars are not wanted now: put out every
    Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
    Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
    For nothing now can ever come to any good.

    Except of course he was wrong. That is the immediate reaction: but so much is still to come.
    Wouldn’t twins be something!!!

    • You’re right, it does sort of feel like a converstation as we are walking along. I love the Auden poem, and loved that movie. And twins would be something, all right–I think my son would be in shock.

  3. This hodgepodge of thoughts all add up to a depiction of how busy your life is, esp in emotional ways. You have so many people going through changes and difficulties, and yet you simultaneously make me miss a Midwestern fall like crazy.

    Now I’m realizing my own changes and emotions and feelings of beauty, just because of what you’ve written.

    • Although I can understand why you might miss the fall, I am so jealous of you there experiencing such an amazing culture. Thanks for sharing your experiences with that.

  4. It has been a beautiful fall, more like the ones I remember as a kid. We deserve a long, pleasant fall after last year’s debacle.

    I traveled all over the place and returned here so my kids could know their grandparents. Now that my parents are gone I find that I enjoy living here and have no great desire to pick up and start over somewhere else again. I suppose I could change my mind, but I doubt it. I would like someday to return to France and spend some time there, now that I know a bit more of my ancestry.

    Rambles are nice. I actually had the same idea at the same time!

  5. I wish I could ramble like that, I need the therapy right now.
    My sister is back in the Hospital, she hasn’t been able to have her chemo for a couple weeks.
    It is hard to stay positive.
    My book club read both of those books through my suggestion.
    I loved them.
    Maybe I’ll have to make a list of my favorites on my blog.
    I can suggest “A Fine Balance by Rohinton Misty
    I am loving it.

    • I love getting book suggestions. I will put it on my list. Thank you!

  6. Losing a pet is very hard I think. We have two cats and we dote on them, they are so much company. We miss them when we go on trips. It must be a difficult time for your nephew. It is good that you write to him often.

    • Our dog now can stay with my son and daughter-in-law. That makes it much easier, as when we left him with a pet sitter, or in a kennel, he was miserable. I don’t feel (quite as) guilty leaving him now.

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